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This is You - The Podcast

May 2019

Sania Khan and Auroosa Kazmi Ishaq, Diary of 2 Middle Children, Part 1

May 15, 2019

Episode 4, Part 1: Does birth order influence our personalities?  Both my guest, Sania Khan, and I are middle children and feel that being a middle child plays a fundamental role in how we experience and view the world.  In this episode, we discuss middle child syndrome and how being a middle child has led to certain tendencies such as people pleasing, wanting to be peacemakers, feeling neglected and trying to figure out our role in our families. 

In particular, I think I equated being a middle child with being less loved or less worthy and it took me a long time to realize that that wasn't the case. But where did this feeling come from to begin with? Listen in to this episode to learn where some of these ideas came from, how they were perpetuated and how I began to see things differently as I became a parent.

People pleasing is another aspect of our personalities that can affect so many of our everyday choices, how do you break free of the desire to please everyone else and live life on your own terms?  Sania and I discuss our journey and what we still struggle with today.

We also tackle topics such as why the process of arranged marriage can be difficult as a middle child, choosing a different path from the ones our siblings paved for us, embracing ourselves with self-love, and how it influences us going forward. 

This is part one of a really funny, insightful and interesting conversation.  You won't want to miss this one!